I created this image back in 2012. I actually saw this on a t-shirt shortly thereafter, which I thought was quite amusing. Obviously, I am not that creative.
But what this shows me is that I have grown tremendously since then. Through volunteerism, yoga, reading, and meditation I’ve learned how to combat old toxic thought processes. One example is of not taking things personally.
There will always be a group of people who will be agreeable and like you. Transversely, you cannot aim to please everyone so there will inevitably be individuals out there that dislike like you. If you place any value on what either group thinks, then you’ll always be at the mercy of their whims. If a given individual wins the lottery, chances are they will be ecstatic, elated, and enthusiastic when interacting with you. However, if that same individual happens to get suspended from work, loses their job, or gets dumped, most likely they will be in a less personable mood and may even project their feelings of frustration or loss onto you. By not taking things personally, you float on a feeling of independence that doesn’t cater to the fluctuations of those around you. It’s tremendously liberating and smirk-inducing.
On that note, I’m leaving for Los Angeles on Saturday. In the fashion of not taking things personally, I’ve had to say goodbye to people (good and bad) who were once a part of my life. People and relationships grow, and what was good for you yesterday may not be so good for you today. But that’s nothing to cry about, if and only you learn to not take things personally.